What do you do when unhappy clients make you feel like a fake, or that you're not cut out to succeed working for yourself?

Stacey's Full Question: I just watched the youtube video on having ridiculously high expectations of yourself and I found your advice really helpful.

However, I wondered how that would apply to freelancers who are learning on the job? For example - I am a fresh out of the box graphic designer. I learned online via distance learning and I am now starting to take on my first clients.

I have been struggling with impostor syndrome, which has deepened now I am on my 6th revision of a logo for my first client - resulting in me feeling like I am not good enough. I started to question everything (ENFP here - hi), because if I am learning on the job then failure is not an option. And if I need to build my business based on reputation, then I need to make my clients happy.

So, I am kind of stuck between having ridiculously high expectations of myself and also meeting expectations of my clients without feeling like a failure?

So now I am not sure whether freelance is right for me - because as a people pleaser I am mentally beating myself up when I feel like I have not met my client's expectations. I think there is a question in there somewhere - hopefully, it makes sense. Any advice you have would be really appreciated.

Thanks,

Stacey

The Law of Attraction was popularized by Napolean Hill (Think and Grow Rich), The movie The Secret, and many Gurus the world over. Is there something to this belief and way of thinking, or is The Law of Attraction utter BS?

So what is the Law of Attraction? It's the belief that whatever we focus on in our minds will manifest itself into the world. As a follower of personal development, psychology, and science, you might imagine I have a few things to say about how The Law of Attraction works and doesn't.

A lot of people struggle to build a career as a Freelance Writer but it really doesn't need to be so hard! Here I share a few pieces of advice that helped me earn over $100 an hour freelance writing while traveling the world as a digital nomad. Seriously, true story.

Hi Dan. I'm Kumar and I live in a small town called Patna in India. I got to know about you through a YouYube video in which you were talking about INFP majors and INFP career choices. Being an INFP myself I realized I was being too harsh on myself to get the things done which I don't necessarily enjoy. I am a 12th grader and a feeling of uncertainty about the future haunts me. My Mind keeps buzzing and telling me to explore as much as different options possible even if it requires sacrificing the work I'm currently doing. How should I overcome this?"

This Episode will be very helpful for INFPs, ENFPs and INFJs who struggle with a buzzing, always thinking mind. So if you are an INFP, ENFP, or INFJ Personality listen and enjoy!

How can an ENFP stop over analyzing everything? (This happens to me when I get bored or when I can't socialize so often with some people, especially with the family, because of stress, work, different lifestyles, concepts, etc.)

Dear Dan, How can I make the housework more enjoyable? I really hate it, I don't like to do the same thing every day but I must. From Darina (an ENFP)

Here's a bit of my advice on both topics, for better or worse! 

Can your MBTI personality change over time? Does a personality type evolve over time, or does it change into something else?

This episode is answering a question from Darina, an ENFP, sent in asking if your MBTI can change. I also cover the evolution and maturity process of a person, specifically an ENFP, as I tell my own story of evolving and developing various functions and traits. So, can a person's MBTI change? Tune in to find out what I think. 

If you've been involved with personal development, you know, people like Tony Robbins, Brian Tacey, Marie Forleo, or Brendon Burchard, I'm sure you've come across the idea of a vision statement. 

Having a vision statement for your life is a great idea and can really help you focus and move towards the future you want...UNLESS you've fallen ill with Personal Development Cliche Syndrome...

In this case, your hollow, lifeless vision statement will leave you more of a confused dreamer. In this video, I'll cover my idea for how to write a vision statement that will actually move you and make sense. 

Do you know someone who loves to disguise reasons as excuses to justify bad behavior? According to this study, it actually isn't such a bad idea and in the right circumstances could help you get what you want...

Let's end Procrastination once and for all...TOMORROW! Seriously though, procrastinating sucks and this episode will help.

If you follow this approach you will always increase your income in a sustainable way that benefits you and your freelance clients or business customers

This episode will be of particular interest to people with the ENFP personality and the INFP personality who often find themselves making decisions with emotion but then justifying it after with logic. This can lead to shiny object syndrome and changing direction way too much! This episode will help you stay focused and overcome fear, plus becoming aware of emotional decision making so you can start to master your emotions.

This is why I never made decisions when I'm hungover and why you shouldn't either. It's taken Psychologists too long to re-learn the importance of our brain-body connection...and not understanding this connection can have really painful results.

If you've ever felt jealous, envious, or just like crap, then chances are that you have experienced this phenomenon that plagues our modern world. If you stop doing this one thing and then you will feel and be better. This episode could literally change your life!

People tend to put on their best face in public, but hide their problems. The truth is that others are often more messed up than you and use deception to hide that fact. If all of you take this to heart then your confidence will rise and you can unashamedly become your true, authentic self and do what you really enjoy.

INFPs are an amazing personality type with limitless imagination and potential. What should an INFP do to have the most success in their job or career?