What do you do when unhappy clients make you feel like a fake, or that you're not cut out to succeed working for yourself?
Stacey's Full Question: I just watched the youtube video on having ridiculously high expectations of yourself and I found your advice really helpful.
However, I wondered how that would apply to freelancers who are learning on the job? For example - I am a fresh out of the box graphic designer. I learned online via distance learning and I am now starting to take on my first clients.
I have been struggling with impostor syndrome, which has deepened now I am on my 6th revision of a logo for my first client - resulting in me feeling like I am not good enough. I started to question everything (ENFP here - hi), because if I am learning on the job then failure is not an option. And if I need to build my business based on reputation, then I need to make my clients happy.
So, I am kind of stuck between having ridiculously high expectations of myself and also meeting expectations of my clients without feeling like a failure?
So now I am not sure whether freelance is right for me - because as a people pleaser I am mentally beating myself up when I feel like I have not met my client's expectations. I think there is a question in there somewhere - hopefully, it makes sense. Any advice you have would be really appreciated.
The Law of Attraction was popularized by Napolean Hill (Think and Grow Rich), The movie The Secret, and many Gurus the world over. Is there something to this belief and way of thinking, or is The Law of Attraction utter BS?
So what is the Law of Attraction? It's the belief that whatever we focus on in our minds will manifest itself into the world. As a follower of personal development, psychology, and science, you might imagine I have a few things to say about how The Law of Attraction works and doesn't.
A lot of people struggle to build a career as a Freelance Writer but it really doesn't need to be so hard! Here I share a few pieces of advice that helped me earn over $100 an hour freelance writing while traveling the world as a digital nomad. Seriously, true story.
Hi Dan. I'm Kumar and I live in a small town called Patna in India. I got to know about you through a YouYube video in which you were talking about INFP majors and INFP career choices. Being an INFP myself I realized I was being too harsh on myself to get the things done which I don't necessarily enjoy. I am a 12th grader and a feeling of uncertainty about the future haunts me. My Mind keeps buzzing and telling me to explore as much as different options possible even if it requires sacrificing the work I'm currently doing. How should I overcome this?"
This Episode will be very helpful for INFPs, ENFPs and INFJs who struggle with a buzzing, always thinking mind. So if you are an INFP, ENFP, or INFJ Personality listen and enjoy!
How can an ENFP stop over analyzing everything? (This happens to me when I get bored or when I can't socialize so often with some people, especially with the family, because of stress, work, different lifestyles, concepts, etc.)
Dear Dan, How can I make the housework more enjoyable? I really hate it, I don't like to do the same thing every day but I must. From Darina (an ENFP)
Here's a bit of my advice on both topics, for better or worse!
Can your MBTI personality change over time? Does a personality type evolve over time, or does it change into something else?
This episode is answering a question from Darina, an ENFP, sent in asking if your MBTI can change. I also cover the evolution and maturity process of a person, specifically an ENFP, as I tell my own story of evolving and developing various functions and traits. So, can a person's MBTI change? Tune in to find out what I think.
If you've been involved with personal development, you know, people like Tony Robbins, Brian Tacey, Marie Forleo, or Brendon Burchard, I'm sure you've come across the idea of a vision statement.
Having a vision statement for your life is a great idea and can really help you focus and move towards the future you want...UNLESS you've fallen ill with Personal Development Cliche Syndrome...
In this case, your hollow, lifeless vision statement will leave you more of a confused dreamer. In this video, I'll cover my idea for how to write a vision statement that will actually move you and make sense.
Do you know someone who loves to disguise reasons as excuses to justify bad behavior? According to this study, it actually isn't such a bad idea and in the right circumstances could help you get what you want...
Let's end Procrastination once and for all...TOMORROW! Seriously though, procrastinating sucks and this episode will help.
If you follow this approach you will always increase your income in a sustainable way that benefits you and your freelance clients or business customers
This episode will be of particular interest to people with the ENFP personality and the INFP personality who often find themselves making decisions with emotion but then justifying it after with logic. This can lead to shiny object syndrome and changing direction way too much! This episode will help you stay focused and overcome fear, plus becoming aware of emotional decision making so you can start to master your emotions.
This is why I never made decisions when I'm hungover and why you shouldn't either. It's taken Psychologists too long to re-learn the importance of our brain-body connection...and not understanding this connection can have really painful results.
If you've ever felt jealous, envious, or just like crap, then chances are that you have experienced this phenomenon that plagues our modern world. If you stop doing this one thing and then you will feel and be better. This episode could literally change your life!
People tend to put on their best face in public, but hide their problems. The truth is that others are often more messed up than you and use deception to hide that fact. If all of you take this to heart then your confidence will rise and you can unashamedly become your true, authentic self and do what you really enjoy.
INFPs are an amazing personality type with limitless imagination and potential. What should an INFP do to have the most success in their job or career?
Yeah Yeah, you're "working on" writing a book or screenplay right? How much work are you doing, compared to say, watching videos about writing? Writing can be a very rewarding experience, but only if you actually WRITE!
You may not think of yourself as a dabbler, but if you're an infp or enfp personality, or you're just someone who tends to change directions too often, then dabbling may be killing your chances of success.
Whether you are an introvert like an INFP, INFJ, or intj, or you're a more empathetic extrovert like an ENFJ, ESFP, or ENFP, you probably HATE cold calling and having to put pressure on someone to buy from you. The traditional high-pressure selling approach likely makes you vomit.
Don't worry! Consultative selling will turn sales on its head and help you close more deals...aka getting more clients...all while actually enjoying the process and using your introversion and empathy to HELP you be a great sales person.
Is being a Digital Nomad really enough!? What about being location independent?
If you want to know how to become a digital nomad or location independent, I would say there are generally 3 different approaches to working online. How you choose to work online is up to you, but you'll see in the video, my preference is for freelance work.
If freelancing isn't for you (why not!?), then you can consider a remote job, a job that lets you work from anywhere as long as you get the work done. Personally, I think being a freelancer digital nomad is a great place to start, but that's just me.
Lastly, you can consider any number of online business ideas. This is a topic for a whole video series in itself (and I'll make it...eventually!), but for now I just include my thoughts on online business and how it compares to working remotely and freelancing work.
A listen asks:
I hope you are doing alright ... First of all, I'm a gay male, atheist, and INFP. I'm not facing acceptances in my family, friends, and community. No one knows the truth about me, except some of my internet friends. That let me feel so bad about myself and leads me to face depression alone because I can't live my life like who I'm and no one will understand ...
After a few years, I'll finish my college study in computer field ... Then I'll face difficult decision ... to leave my country to live happily and be myself like I want but it will make me lose my family, being shamed and most of all unable to return to my country for rest of my life ... Because they will not understand or accept ... I tried to hint and talk about stuff like gay people and atheist but there were terrible answers like "They need to be killed or being hurt and thrown in jail" ...
So do you have any advises or tips for me?
Anyway, thank you for reading my message... and I'll understand if you are unable to answer me...
Each day we wake up with a limited amount of discipline...but there are ways to maximize this and, at least appear to, become a discipline machine. One way to do this is making it easy and forming habits.
When you imagine happy, I doubt you're imagining a stone-faced Northern German or Scandinavian and yet these countries always rate at the top of happiness and life satisfaction indexes.
You're likely not a Lawyer, yet the reason Lawyers suffer more depression offers an insight we can all use to reduce depression and train ourselves to feel happier.
I'm an old school guy, but times be changing and so be business! If you want to succeed in 2017 you need to adjust how you think about business and clients...and if you do, you will annihilate the competition and dominate your market.
We've all heard how important it is to be held accountability. Hire a coach! Join a mastermind! Get accountability...BULL$HIT!!! Let me tell you WHY this way of thinking is such a HUGE MISTAKE.